Friendships come and go, but family is forever....
My New Year's resolution this year is to focus my time, emotion, and energy on my family.
I have always been that girl who has needed that closeness with a girl-friend. I've always needed friends. And I've always placed more importance on those friendships than maybe I should have. I don't get close to others easily and when I do, I get too close. In the past I've become a little too dependent on those friendships, and every single time it has caused me heart ache in the end.
I love and appreciate my friendships, past and present. But so many of them have come and gone, even those that I have been closest to and thought would be forever, those who I believed were as close to me and as attached to me as I was to them. It's got to be unhealthy to invest so much in a friendship that can so easily crumble? And it has got to be unhealthy to hurt so badly when it does crumble.
After a few months of great pondering, I realized something so very important......I need to stop crying and hurting over things that cannot be changed and focus on my family! I need to not let others lack of feelings for me weigh so heavily on me. I need to be happy with the love and devotion I have from the most important people. My family!!
I have 3 wonderful, beautiful children. I have the love of a man that I have loved most of my adult life. They are my focus. I have spent less time over the past couple of months focusing on friendships and more time hanging out with my kids and focusing on my relationship with my husband. And I have to say that life is so much better. I am happier. I am loving the time I spend with my husband, and I am having fun with him again. With 3 kids, financial stresses, and different jobs, it's so easy to grow apart. We laugh together again, and chat again, and cuddle again. I didn't realize how much I missed my husband! He's my best friend and always will be. I'm thankful to remember that.
I may not have a desire to get too close to anyone else anymore, but I am making new friendships, and enjoying those friendships. And I am in love with my husband all over again!
So my New Year's resolution is to focus on my family. I can't and won't go wrong there!
My New Year's resolution this year is to focus my time, emotion, and energy on my family.
I have always been that girl who has needed that closeness with a girl-friend. I've always needed friends. And I've always placed more importance on those friendships than maybe I should have. I don't get close to others easily and when I do, I get too close. In the past I've become a little too dependent on those friendships, and every single time it has caused me heart ache in the end.
I love and appreciate my friendships, past and present. But so many of them have come and gone, even those that I have been closest to and thought would be forever, those who I believed were as close to me and as attached to me as I was to them. It's got to be unhealthy to invest so much in a friendship that can so easily crumble? And it has got to be unhealthy to hurt so badly when it does crumble.
After a few months of great pondering, I realized something so very important......I need to stop crying and hurting over things that cannot be changed and focus on my family! I need to not let others lack of feelings for me weigh so heavily on me. I need to be happy with the love and devotion I have from the most important people. My family!!
I have 3 wonderful, beautiful children. I have the love of a man that I have loved most of my adult life. They are my focus. I have spent less time over the past couple of months focusing on friendships and more time hanging out with my kids and focusing on my relationship with my husband. And I have to say that life is so much better. I am happier. I am loving the time I spend with my husband, and I am having fun with him again. With 3 kids, financial stresses, and different jobs, it's so easy to grow apart. We laugh together again, and chat again, and cuddle again. I didn't realize how much I missed my husband! He's my best friend and always will be. I'm thankful to remember that.
I may not have a desire to get too close to anyone else anymore, but I am making new friendships, and enjoying those friendships. And I am in love with my husband all over again!
So my New Year's resolution is to focus on my family. I can't and won't go wrong there!
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